I have a Prince Charming.
What’s he like?
He is the most beautiful man in the world.
And he loves you?
Yes, he’s loved me since day one.
I don’t believe it.
It’s true, he loves me and I love him.
Really? And what’s his name?
He has a name, but I call him Daddy.
It is an almost magical relationship, but sometimes it can get complicated.
The relationship between a father and a daughter is crucial and emotional.
For a little girl, the father represents the male figure in the world.
Therefore, the paternal role becomes the protagonist and bearer of a responsibility that is no small thing. How should a father behave, therefore, in order not to disappoint his daughter and not to transmit a distorted or negative image of the entire male category?
First of all, a father should be there, he should be an active presence who shares education with his mother.
There is a golden age in the relationship between a father and a daughter: it is a phase in which, in a certain sense, everything is decided. The age between three and nine years of girls, according to experts, is the one in which the paternal role plays a decisive role.
In this period of time, a father can really transmit to his daughter images, emotional imprints and crucial teachings for her future and for her relationships. It is therefore precisely the experts who advise us to make the most of this moment.
The little girls who are born will become women in the blink of an eye and the father has tasks that only he can do:
1) to be their playmate (they are hilarious, imaginative, creative, reckless, they play the role assigned to them and they have fun too!)
2) to be the ideal of man for them tomorrow
3) to open a communication gap between men and women (it is known that there can be great difficulties in communication between men and women due to structural, cultural, educational, etc… to ensure that a gap does not develop between the two genders by finding the necessary strategies is a very difficult task but it will come naturally to an aware father with his daughter).
It is said that a man desires his daughter and feels a different love for her than for his son.
These prejudices only help to increase the struggles between males for power, and the illusion of females who will be loved regardless. Nothing could be more wrong.
Children are loved and “hated” in equal measure whether they are male or female because it depends on how much they reflect of us, of our unsolved.
A healthy father/daughter relationship will allow him to enjoy moments in the female world that were previously incomprehensible and to put in her emotional imprints capable of planting those solid roots that are essential for future relationships compared to the opposite gender, as well as to enjoy a wonderful love together.
What must always be transmitted, is the sense of presence: you can fly away from the nest and experience life, you can dream and reach every peak but there is always a welcoming nest to return to, where you will not be judged but understood. This nest will be very important even in the adult phase.
A father who loves his daughter puts a seed of trust in the genre that will only bring more love.
Because, if the mum represents the nest, the other part of
us, the dad represents the world, what I am not, what I want to explore.
And instead of the fairy tales of Prince Charming who will save the princess, I am sure that today dads prefer to tell
the fairy tale of princesses who save themselves because they are able to do it!
They are strong and brave, but they have the king who supports and encourages them and maybe even a prince to “race” on horseback!